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ASTRONAUT = A person who travels beyond the earth’s atmosphere;
a trainee for spaceflight. (MERRIAM-WEBSTER’S)

DATING/DATE = An appointment to meet at a specified time; especially,
a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character. (MERRIAM-WEBSTER’S)

ASTRONAUT DATING = Two people who travel beyond a familiar atmosphere into the realm of the unknown for romantic reasons;
a romantic mission.

Astronauts receive training for rapid transitions. They can go from complete boredom to having to perform at maximum capacity in a matter of moments…

We wouldn’t want to send you out into space without training, right? But that’s exactly how you approach your potential love relationships. Without training, without awareness of your own strengths (and weaknesses) – you are basically flying blind into the outer space of love, hoping to land on a planet, or a moon.

Space travel is not for the faint of heart, and neither is love.

For some, dating can be like strolling up to a complete stranger and saying: “So, you want to fly to the moon with me?” Your mission is really not helped by its own variables, either: “No, I really have no idea how we’ll get there, but I’ve heard it’s just a fabulous adventure, and everyone else is doing it, so why not? Let’s give it a try!”

You may be over-inspired, however, and potential partners might be put off by your enthusiasm for the adventure. Alas, that special someone may not understand anything about the mission, such as what the atmosphere on the new planet is like, or whether the air is even breathable.

Just like no space mission is a guaranteed success, no relationship is guaranteed to succeed, either. For manned space missions, each crew member has been specially trained to carry out a specific role – and trained is the key word, here – but who knows what will happen after the launch? The best possible outcome is that everyone performs their roles to perfection, responding rapidly and correctly to each scenario as it arises.

Factor in the increasingly expanding and complicated world of Internet dating and social media, where connections happen as fast as the speed of light, and it becomes apparent that each crew member MUST understand what the mission is…


And this is exactly why most missions of love fail – all hype and no prep. Most of the failed connections I’ve dealt with fall into this huge, strange category. My goal is to prepare you for the mission.

Retired NASA Flight Director Eugene Francis “Gene” Krantz directed the successful Mission Control team efforts to save the crew of Apollo 13. A favorite figure in the history of U.S. manned space exploration, Krantz was also a personal friend of the American astronauts of his time. Some could even argue that, no one – not even the astronauts themselves – were as invested in their safe return to Earth as he was.

To give you an idea of how–even with all the best prep work, training and support–things can easily go all wrong, the following is Krantz’s famous countdown to launch the Apollo 13 mission to the moon. Krantz: “Apollo 13 Flight Controllers, listen up! Give me a go/no-go for launch… “Booster!” – “Go!”  “RETRO!”  (Retrofire Officer) – “ Go!” “FIDO!” (Flight Dynamics Officer) – “We’re go, Flight!” “Guidance!” – “Guidance go!” “Surgeon!” – “Go, Flight.” “EECOM!” (Command Service Module Electrical and Environmental Engineer) – “We’re go, Flight!” “GNC!” (Guidance, Navigation & Control) – “We’re go!” “TELMU!” (Telemetry) – “Go!” Control!” (EECOM’s counterpart for Lunar Module systems) – “Go, Flight!” Procedures! – “Go!” “INCO!” (Instrumentation and Communications Officer) –“ Go!” “FAO!” (Flight Activities Officer) – “We are go!” “Network!” – “Go!” “Recovery!” – “Go!” “CAPCOM!” (Capsule Communicator) – “We’re go, Flight!” Krantz: “Launch Control, this is Houston. We are go for launch!”

Alas, the astronauts of Apollo 13 never made it to the moon, but because they made it back to Earth alive, that mission was called a “successful failure.” Going to the moon failed despite all the best minds in the country fighting for it every step of the way. There were just too many unforeseen variables in that mission.

But it doesn’t have to be this way in your relationships. You can always become a better Flight Director.



Of HEARTS & MINDS is a sporadic blog about love.

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The Spi(der) Who Loved Me

All Guts, No Glory ~ A Terrible Morning for the Spi(der) Who Loved Me…..

When I first saw you, I admit you caught me off guard. Your eight eyes were captivating, but deep down I knew I couldn’t trust you. “Just stay there, in your corner,” I said. And you seemed to agree, because you stayed there.

For three days, I knew you only as the dark and dangerous lone wolf, with no family and no friends (at least none that wanted to be seen with you). But in the eerie, early morning of today you broke the terms of our courtship, and you most certainly did NOT stay put. You might have thought that you were dancing across my heart, but really, you were tiptoeing across my forehead, which freaked me out.

So, from a sound sleep, I woke and instinctively smacked at my forehead in the dark…just once, and Splatttt!! As I jumped out of bed, you fell to the floor, deader than dead. “What were you thinking?!” I yelled. I got no answer.

It should have been such a simple affair. But, after your demise, confusion set in and I wondered what this was really all about.

It was so very hard to go back to sleep.

But, when I woke today, I just felt like I needed to tell you…
I’m not sorry. And I’m over it.


Of Hearts & Minds is a sporadic blog about love,

written by someone people tell their secrets to.

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